@liuck73
Women search for happiness through validation. Men search for peace through clarity.
@razer0072073
Therapy for women is basically telling them what they want to hear.
@thorie79
Jordan Peterson is also a legend at understanding that what men want are solutions, not just being understood.
@GargantuanGouda
Chatted to a mates who have been through therapy and they say the same thing, they kept expecting to get homework or something to do or something to practice but all it ever ended up being was a session where the therapist wanted to talk. I've had the same thing. Even a male therapist didn't get it, he just wanted to sit around and talk. I'm like, bro, I understand we need to talk so you understand the situation, but when I start repeating myself and you've still got nothing for me, it's a waste of time and money.
@seangaw6429
Construction contractors always yell at his male workers. When was the last time a young girl was yelled at by her female boss. Almost never.
@gnosis555
I’m 40 and have PTSD. I avoided it my whole life but after my spouse died 6 months ago I’ve begun seeing a male counselor. I wish I’d done it earlier as he’s helped give me a lot of insight and techniques. He challenges my views which tend to be very one-dimensional. Has a different personality than me but similar background. I feel as if I’m expanding my toolbox of skills to expand my life further. I’m lucky I found him because I am not interested in talking to a nodding head.
@Impermanance
Thank you for that--only someone who has actually done thousands of consultions with both women and men could have that experience, and you're the first to have announced it publicly
@jokhard8137
I've read that men benefit more from shared activities with other men (possibly building something together) where they're free to share their pressing issues if they feel comfortable doing so than they do from active talking types of therapy We might have to re-examine as a population what "therapy" even means in the future
@ReviveCounselingLLC.onli-ks8vy
As a therapist for men I acknowledge this and agree. I have a direct approach that works great for my male clients. I appreciate that you're having this conversation
@justg1977
I went to therapy she told me I'll never be able to fix her
@jimmyjuju
My marriage therapy looked a lot like "blaming him" and "absolving her". I vowed never to do therapy again. Waste of time and money.
@HRHThe-Arsewell-Foundation
Also, my husband has tried therapy 3 different times, years apart, completely different therapists, always women because that's all that was available and practices. In every instance, by the third or fourth session, the therapist was focusing a lot on me (not there, not a patient, never met her) instead of redirecting him back to focusing on his reasons for coming to therapy. Then it always lead to her suggesting a "trial separation" so he could "clear his head". Nevermind that he had four young children at home, a wife who wasn't the reason for his behaviors. There was no abuse, no infidelity. Suggesting to break up a family as part of therapy is insidious.
@n10tkey1
My ex girlfriend of 3 years has been going to therapy for about 2 years now. We parted ways in February so I obviously can't judge the usefulness of therapy since the breakup, but I can say that the therapy was totally useless when we were in a relationship. She had traumatic childhood, including bullying in elementary school and high school, her mother died right before she hit puberty and she didn't get along very well with her dad's new girlfriend afterwards. As a result of that she was incredibly sensitive to anything. I had to choose the sweetest of words not to trigger her. She could not distinguish constructive criticism from a malicious one. So anything that bothered me and I wanted to talk about would always lead to very heated arguments. Arguments we had were horrible. She had no control over her emotions. She would talk loudly, sometimes even scream. She would ignore all my points and would only talk about her side of the story. I always tried to keep it civil and productive but sometimes I would also lose my temper for which I would be blamed afterwards. She was also highly insecure and anxious. Due to bullying, I suppose, she had very low self-confidence and self-esteem. She needed constant reassurance of everything. Every single day. Many times they were reoccurring things. On top of that, she was unable to maintain healthy relationships with other people around her. I tried to talk about all of this with her, but any time I did, I had to take a step back. I hoped the therapy would help, but from what I know, they would only talk about the most superficial stuff such as "How was your week?" where she would just get validated. I came to a conclusion that unless the person truly wants to see their flaws and change, nothing else will help.
@CushRayman
If she says lets go to therapy, it's so she can rip you apart with a professional. If you say no, she'll go crazy and you'll know you dodged a bullet, but she's still a gun.
@Richsmg
Some men don’t want to say the wrong thing to the wrong doctor and wind up on the do not buy list 🔫
@Dansyoung
I talked to a therapist for about 3 sessions, learned my concerns and thoughts were based. And quickly realized it was a waste of time and money to continue discussing things I knew were logical.
@Paulc_cc
Had a female therapist come on to me. Was totally manipulative really screwed up situation
@nniemeyernn2
Thank you! I have been in therapy for 8 months and I firmly believe it is absolutely worthless. I have told my therapist I think it's worthless. As far as I can tell therapy is just paid professionally guided rumination. For a someone (like a woman) who loves to feel emotions is wonderful, but for a person who has no interest in feeling emotions other than calm, happy or horny, therapy is punishment. I can acknowledge that emotions exist, that I experienced them. I can also articulate them. I just have no desire for them, I don't enjoy them and what them gone as soon as possible. To do that, I need to remove the issues which cause them ie I need a solution.
@mdaaaa1211
Women need to be listened to prosess all the emotions they have. That's what's therapeutic for them. Men meanwhile need to first understand the causality of their issue they are suffering from them a solution as a form of an action plan.
@TheUltimegaMan